Our careers can be self destructed in many ways. The way we think is one of them, though we often fail to recognize it. The way we talk to ourselves and how we perceive our ability to succeed should be encouraged, not diminished. At least that is what we read in an interesting article on Forbes.com written by an expert on emotional intelligence, Travis Bradberry. Travis Bradberry is the author of the world's most popular emotional intelligence tests and a globally successful book entitled Emotional Intelligence, which is also published in Czech by BizBooks. Bradberry pointed to six dangerous beliefs which can destroy a career.
1. Success requires perfection
As the saying goes, mistakes are human. If you strive for perfection, you will never accomplish anything. Instead of enjoying what you have achieved you will fret about imagined failures.
2. I can't change my fate
Isn't this just an excuse? Your fate is in your hands and it's up to you to what extent you want to be it's master.
3. I always do this and that ... I never do this and that ...
"Always" and "never" are strong words. If these actually are managing your life, it is a sign of self-pity. You are losing control over your own actions.
4. Success needs others to acknowledge it
Remember that you are never as good or bad as people say. Self-esteem comes from within each person rather than from the surroundings. Accept the reactions of people around you with healthy scepticism.
5. My past determines my future
Past failures can undermine your self-confidence. You may think if you fail once, you will also fail in the future. Here, it is important to realize that success is the ability to stand up to failures, to learn and move on.
6. My emotions reflect reality
Are you emotionally intelligent enough to be able to separate facts from fiction? Emotions can significantly distort our perception of reality and encourage a negative view of our success. We should learn how to understand our emotions better so that we can fully develop our potential.
The book:
BRADBERRY, Travis – GREAVES, Jean - LENCIONI, Patrick M.: Emotional Intelligence 2.0. San Diego: TalentSmart, 2009. 255 p.
BRADBERRY, Travis – GREAVES, Jean - LENCIONI, Patrick M.: Emoční inteligence. Prague: BizBooks, 2013. 240 p.
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