Anger can make you feel miserable. Getting angry and screaming at somebody or punching the wall is easy, but staying calm in the heat of the situation or walking away from a fight, these reactions are not as easy. Anger is a tough emotion to handle, but it is perfectly normal. And, since it doesn’t feel great to be angry, the addicted2success.com website offered three tips on how to overcome it.
1. The world simply won’t start working the way you think should
When your mind says one thing, but reality ignores you, get over it. Stop getting angry when people act silly, or when they are not being as nice as you think they should be. These are only your opinions and world is not always logical. Things tend to go wrong sometimes. You will witness situations that are unfair. Reality won't be exactly how you want it. Loosen your grip on life.
2. Anger is not as bad as you thought
Anger is not a bad thing. It can be a good source of energy for positive change – Ghandi and Martin Luther King used it to fuel their work. However, anger cannot be your only source of energy. It is not sustainable over a long period of time and that is why you need other emotions. The key insight here is that you shouldn't feel guilty about this foundation of anger. In order to be able to alleviate your anger when it is too overwhelming, you need to know this. You are not a monster, you are not messed up when you get angry. Let it be your fuel for taking actions for a positive change.
3. Anger management doesn’t work, you need to ask yourself right questions instead
Trying to manage your anger often means you are effectively sweeping your problems under the rug. Stop repressing your feelings and focus on finding the root cause of why you feel the way you feel. Be honest with yourself and think about what the primary emotion could be – it is often fear of something. Anger is very often just secondary, caused by the original emotion. Track this primary emotion and you will discover the true root of your anger. It might be guilt, sadness or rejection.
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