The following are four characteristics of victim mentality. Check whether you suffer from it, urges the management-issues.com website. People with this mentality:
- Lack clarity about their goals. They are always moving forwards and backwards between realistic and unrealistic or illusory expectations. Further, they blame others for their own lack of clarity.
- They are unable to deal with their time and resource limits, meaning they are not able to use their time and other resources effectively and intelligently. They cannot cope with external constraints, so they blame other people and events.
- They are not aware of how they are creating and causing the current events in their lives. They can’t change their thoughts, beliefs, attitudes or behaviors to make a positive change. They believe they do not cause the issues standing in their way but others are responsible.
- They constantly deny that our life choices affect our mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health and well-being. That is why they insist that all their pain and suffering are caused by external events or circumstances beyond their control.
Responsibility must be accepted
Inner work and self-reflection can often help us realize our own responsibility for what we do. We have to own the consequences of our choices and actions. Forget about willpower, it hardly ever works. To take positive action, we must first find our core, inner strength and stop behaving in self-destructive and self-sabotaging ways.
True resolve requires deep, inner, and conscious reflection. To experience a lasting change and transformation, you must choose to release the victim within and try to nourish being in control of your life.
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