Being afraid to disagree with someone superior to us is natural. The human body is simply programmed to avoid situations that may hurt us. This does not mean, however, that we should remain silent and agree with all proposals of our superiors just because we are afraid of the possible negative consequences of disagreeing. If you think that something proposed by your boss will not work, you should not ask yourself whether to speak about it or not. You should ask how you can speak about it so that it is beneficial for both parties.
The issue of expressing disagreement with superiors was the topic of a recent article by Amy Gallo, popular author of management tips on the Harvard Business Review website. She recommends you to take the following steps.
Consider the real risks
Will you really be fired or will your boss become your lifelong enemy if you dare to disagree? Probably not. The consequences can be more severe if you say nothing. At the same time, however, carefully plan the timing. You don't have to speak immediately: you may need to gather more information or talk about it first with your colleagues. It might also be better if you talk with your boss privately.
Clarify a common goal
Before expressing your disagreement, you should realise what common interest you and your superior have. Then explain your opinion based on this interest. Immediately before you say that you disagree, ask your boss for permission to express your disagreement. Although it may sound strange, this will help both of you psychologically. It is important for you to speak calmly and not reveal a fear or reluctance to speak.
Express your opinion
Start by summarising in your own words what your superior suggested. Show that you understand your boss even if you have a different view. When expressing your opinion, beware of evaluation expressions such as "short-sighted", "wrong" or "naive", which your boss may simply misinterpret or take personally. Focus on the facts. Emphasise that you are expressing an opinion, not the only possible truth. Be open to further discussion.
Respect your superior's authority
Remember that the final decision rests with your superiors. Conclude your speech by saying that it is up to them to make the right decision. By so doing you will, first, show you respect their authority and, second, emphasise that they have a choice.
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