An article on the addicted2success.com website offers advice on how to deal with failure and use it to our benefit.
Adopt the following steps and you will find it easier to accept and deal with any failure that might happen to you in the future.
What to do if you have failed
1) See it as a chance.
You can set yourself apart from all those people who just give up. Allow your inner strength to grow and, thanks to the failure, become a better person.
2) Analyse why you failed.
You need to know the cause of your failure. What do you need to do differently in order to succeed and achieve your goals? Maybe you didn’t put in enough effort. Maybe you chose a wrong strategy. So once again: what can you do better in the future?
3) The defeat is not permanent.
You can and you should try to achieve your dreams. It doesn’t matter how much adversity you encounter along the way. If you believe in your dreams and are willing to adapt and learn from the feedback you get, you are going to succeed.
When we have big goals, every little sign of adversity is very unpleasant for us. Any obstacle or failure is a heavy burden. We want everything to go exactly the right way. And if it doesn’t, then it represents a problem and our ego hurts.
We as people are not very skilled in withstanding failure and adversity. We start to be doubtful and see ourselves as being not good enough or smart or tough enough. However, sometimes failure is just a part of the process: we actually need it in order to get the best out of ourselves.
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