Conversations during conflicts can be toxic. On the other hand, they can sometimes also be constructive, leading to the solution of problems and a strengthening of the relationship.
Especially if we feel a sense of understanding from our partners when discussing an issue, we may actually end up feeling more satisfied with the relationship than we were before the conflict arose.
Repeating ideas leads to repeated conflicts
If you are insisting on your point of view, you are probably hoping your partner will finally understand if you simply repeat things in a different way. This, however, leads to repeated conflicts, which may not be productive. To avoid having the same conversation over and over again, you should try to gain a wider perspective by changing your point of view and possibly see the whole conflict from a different angle.
First tip: take a break
When we are emotional, it is impossible to think clearly and maintain perspective. When things get heated, we need a 20-30 minute break to give our body time to calm down. Five minutes isn’t enough because such a timespan is too short to achieve the desired effect.
Time the break wisely: don’t just walk away while the other person is saying something they consider important.
Don’t spend the break trying to perfect your argument. Instead, do something relaxing that will distract you from the conflict itself. You might go for a walk, exercise, or listen to some relaxing music. These are the recommendations of the psychologytoday.com website.
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