Control your reactions and answers
The optimist perceives an unfortunate event as a temporary situation that has no real impact on the future. On the other hand, the pessimist sees negative events as a permanent state, part of life and destiny.
If you find yourself in this situation, take a moment to think properly about the challenge before reacting. Try to respond to the next step towards improvement rather than to a failure over which you have no control.
Separate the event
The optimist sees difficulties as a unique event, while the pessimist considers them universal. This means that when something goes wrong for an optimist, they view the event as an isolated incident, largely disconnected from other situations that arise in their lives. The pessimist accepts the event and adds it to the list of other things that have happened in their life so far. They have mostly a negative outlook and are stressed by recurring problems which are often quite unrelated.
Try to remember that facing failure in one area of life does not mean you face failure in life as a whole. You may just need to adjust your plans and have the right outlook. Mental isolation of an individual incident will allow you to deal with obstacles prudently.
Do not take failure personally
Sometimes it can be extremely hard to see the positive side of failure. Optimists see events as external, while pessimists take them personally. When something goes wrong, the optimist will tend to see any loss as a result of external factors over which one has little control.
Looking at the bigger picture of the situation allows you to act calmly and come through any event. Remember that failures are always temporary, external events and whenever something goes wrong, it is usually the result of a number of external influences.
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