Most managers believe mentoring is a useful personal development and career development tool. Thanks to our mentors, we are exposed to ideas and people we would otherwise not experience. Finding the right mentor and establishing a mutually beneficial relationship is, however, not easy. That is why we have, with the help of the U.S. magazine, Fortune, brought a few tips on what to be aware of.
1. Do not look for a copy of yourself
To really grow, find a mentor with different experience and opinions than yours. For men, this can be a woman and vice versa. You should also search other companies and industries, do not limit yourself just to your bosses.
2. Decide what you want help with
General requests for help are not very useful. You can hardly find a busy professional to become your mentor without a clear purpose. You should specify a clear goal in advance that you want to achieve with your mentor's help. Wanting to "become a better manager" is really not enough.
3. Respect your mentors' time
If in fact you only meet someone twice a year over a cup of coffee he or she is not your mentor. You should schedule meetings with your mentor with a prepared topic. Be proactive and suggest meetings with clear objectives. Do not expect your mentor to plan your development.
4. Do not mistake it as a one-way relationship
Remember that your mentor learns from you as well. He or she expects you to have enthusiasm and interest during your meetings and discussions.
5. Do not force anyone to become your mentor
Your relationship should evolve naturally, do not chase your professional idol as he will probably run away from you. Try to get to know each other well at first and then ask if the person would like to be your mentor. If you do not have any idea who could be a potential mentor, ask your colleagues and friends for recommendations.
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