Why shouldn't you want to be perfect?

People who tend towards perfectionism often ask what is wrong with that. After all, trying to be the best in what we do helps us move forward, learn and achieve success.

This is all true. Nonetheless, once perfectionism starts to affect our lives negatively, it's bad. What should you watch out for?

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According to Psychology Today, perfectionism is especially harmful when you begin to think and behave in the following ways.

I am only as good as my last result

Perfectionists condition perceptions of their own value with results achieved. But they often forget long-term results and see only the most recent ones they don't consider to be perfect. That is very stressful.

I mustn't fail

Perfectionists are able to perceive only two opposite extremes: perfection and failure. Rather than trying to achieve a perfect result, they are governed by their fear of failure.

They want to avoid failure at all costs, which leads to risk-taking and an inability to learn from mistakes. They focus so much on themselves that they can't treat failure as an experience from which they can learn to do things better.

I won't finish until it's perfect

Perfectionists tend to procrastinate completion of their tasks until the results are perfect. But such a state may never arise. The same tendency often prevents them from starting work on a task because they are afraid of imperfect starting conditions.

If you too have such tendencies, beware and try to change. Perfectionism can be very stressful and negatively affect your life in terms of physical and mental health, relationships with others, work and pleasure.

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Article source Psychology Today - a U.S. magazine and online community focused on psychology
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