Perfectionists sabotage both themselves and others

Working hard and setting high goals is certainly desirable if we want to achieve something. However, it is undesirable to fear that any of our mistakes or shortcomings will cause a disaster. Perfectionism might initially seem a positive trait, but the opposite is true. Let's summarise the behaviour which makes perfectionists sabotage themselves and what they can do to change it.

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In a Harvard Business Review article, clinical psychologist Alice Boyes summed up the following undesirable manifestations of perfectionism that lead to a loss of productivity.

 

  • Inability to decide and act: I'm afraid I won't choose the best possible solution.
  • Inability to stop performing less important and unproductive tasks: If I've started something, I'll finish it.
  • Avoiding challenges because of fear of failure: I'm not yet ready to start doing something new.
  • Too high demands on others: If I can do everything absolutely perfectly, anyone can.
  • Thinking about past mistakes and shortcomings all the time: I failed, I failed, I failed.

 

If you too are struggling with such tendencies, try the following practical tips.

Enjoy your success

Instead of constantly thinking about what you did wrong, analyse your achievements in your mind. You will learn to act based on your positive experiences rather than on detailed research and consideration of each step.

Learn to decide and act faster

Set rules for quick decision making. For example, you can say that if something meets four of the five criteria you have set, you will go ahead with it. Or, you can select priority activities based on the financial value they have for you or your company.

Improve by 1%

Do not make it your goal to be flawless; it's too complicated. If you try to improve yourself only by 1%, you will find that improving in small steps is much more effective.

Stop blaming yourself for imperfection

Be consciously aware of when you start ruminating over something you did wrong. Consider whether this way of thinking is helping you in some way. You will find that in fact it does not lead to a solution to your problem, just to a never-ending circle of self-blame. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

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Article source Harvard Business Review - flagship magazine of Harvard Business School
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