Managers must be able to say no: setting boundaries without causing undue offence

Team management is not just about delegating tasks and encouraging creativity, but also about setting boundaries. Saying yes can be comfortable and easy for you, the manager, because you may feel like you are fostering a sense of belonging and positivity among the team. But a true leader must also be able to say no – without feeling guilty or worrying about appearing prudish or distant. In fact, a well-chosen no can be far more beneficial to the team than a hasty yes. How to set boundaries, and when and how to say no?

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Listen and ask

As Forbes states, the first step before uttering a no to a subordinate's suggestion is to listen carefully. Even if you suspect after the first few sentences that you will be unable to give the nod, allow colleagues space to finish their idea. This will show you value their work and what they say is important to you. Even if you do reject the suggestion, enjoy discussing it – not to change anyone's mind, but to explore all the possibilities with subordinates and to spark other ideas.

Explain your reasons clearly

Refusing subordinates something without offering any explanation can lead to frustration among your staff. Explaining the decision helps subordinates understand why a suggestion or task cannot be accepted. Direct and honest communication is key to making subordinates feel respected and encouraged to pursue ideas in the future. If the reason for rejection concerns lack of resources or time, for example, there is no harm in communicating this simply and openly.

Encourage colleagues even after rejection

If there is a good idea behind a proposal, say so. The idea may not be feasible now, but part of it may be useful in the future. Thanking and acknowledging can motivate your employees to come up with more suggestions. This creates a culture where rejection is not seen as a stop sign, but rather a space for improvement and further dialogue.

Don't close the topic completely

Rejecting a suggestion does not mean categorically closing the discussion. Try to frame your rejection as temporary and offer the option of returning to the topic later if conditions change. For example, you might say, "We don't have the capacity to do this now, but we might return to it in a month." This indicates a willingness to reconsider the proposal when the situation is more favourable.

Responsible management of your own time

If you were to agree to all requests and projects, you could be gradually heading towards overwork or even burnout as an individual and as a team. Learning to say no is a way of managing your time and energy effectively. Openly communicate your work priorities and suggest alternative solutions – for example, that someone else can work on the task at hand, or that you'll come back to it later if it is still relevant.

 

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